Parents in Alabama who are no longer involved in a romantic relationship often struggle over the care and custody of shared children. Child support is one of the most contentious topics that parents can face, and there are frustrations on both sides of the issue. Instead of allowing the matter to turn into a series of increasingly negative interactions, parents may want to try taking a different approach.
When two people have a child together and later separate, it can be easy to focus solely on the negative interactions that have taken place. Each set of circumstances is different, but feelings of betrayal, anger, jealousy, abandonment or disappointment can come into play and can cloud the co-parenting relationship. Both parents have an obligation to address these emotions, work to put those feelings behind them and move forward in partnership as parents.
If one party feels that he or she was slighted during the relationship, it may be beneficial to seek counseling to resolve those feelings. On the other hand, the party who is perceived to have behaved badly also has an obligation to apologize and make amends to the best of his or her ability. There may be no chance of rekindling a romantic bond, but there is no reason why most parents cannot become friends, or at least be civil toward one another. When both parents are willing to take steps to repair their relationship and move forward, the outcome is better for all involved, including shared children.
This is also true of child support issues. When an Alabama parent is encountering financial difficulties and is having trouble making child support payments, taking an overly aggressive stance is not likely to improve the situation. When the custodial parent is able to extend kindness and understanding toward the other parent, the foundation is laid for a collaborative effort to make sure that shared children have what they need to thrive. After all, that is the central reason behind child support in the first place.
Source: The Huffington Post, "Eliminating Child Support Debt by Improving Relationships", Mark Echols, March 4, 2016