Sharing custody of a child can be an incredible challenge for parents across Alabama, especially if the parents do not get along with each other. Under these circumstances, exchanging custody can be particularly contentious and heated.
In some cases, parents can set aside their animosity for the brief time they are in contact with each other. In other cases, this is all but impossible. If you fall into the latter of these groups, then you might want to consider ways of making exchanges less volatile.
To alleviate some of the tension and anxiety during custody exchanges, you can:
- Meet in a public place or neutral location.
- Schedule custody exchanges to line up with school or daycare pickups and drop-offs.
- Avoid having any conversations that have the potential to cause an emotional response.
- Make plans for after the exchange so that you have other things to focus on.
- Be on time. If you are going to be late, let the other parent know as soon as possible.
- Minimize any physical interaction.
- Refrain from any discussions or comments about potentially divisive issues until after the exchange when you can put it in writing.
- Focus on what your child sees, hears and experiences during the exchange.
- Remember that these situations can be difficult on your child as well; seeing their parents fight only makes it harder on them.
It is crucial to note that if you have legitimate concerns about the safety and welfare of your child during custody exchanges or when he or she with the other parent, it can be vital that you talk to an attorney about your options for modifying a custody order or parenting plan.
Custody exchanges may never be pleasant, but they don’t have to erupt into heated disputes, either. Utilizing these and other tips can help you ease some of the tension in these situations and do your part to make the experience as peaceful as possible for your child.